Tuesday, March 08, 2005
i have been reading blogs these few days, and i realised that many people are disturbed by some parental issues... if this goes on, probably in a few dacades time, a 5 year old child would be living by his own in the east and his parents would be living in the west. probabaly the whole singapore would only end up with two MRT stations. 1st stop= all children please get down here. *teeteeeteetee* next stop, parents' stop................... 2nd stop=all adults and parents please get down here. *teeteeeteetee* next stop, back to the children's stop................... so on and so forth... actually on whom does the real problem lies in? the parents? the children? well personally i think that both parties have faults and corrects. here goes my story....FOR THE PARENTSlets just say that normally most of the faults come from the parents. NOTE: this is no personal bias =) i will agree that most of my comrades would agree with me. the problem is, parents expect their children to be independent at a young age. however, there are several contradictions to what average parents do. in consideration of their children's safety, they restrict their children to all sorts of stuff. here's a scenario...
CHILD: mummy mummy, the suns out today and the birds are chirping! can i go to the playground today?? *innocent eyes*
MUMMY: oh no dear.. look at the hot weather! it's so hot you know? i don't want you to get rashes on your flawless body... and plus you might get heat stroke you know? (NOTE: the time of this scenario is during the december holidays. thus the weather is EXTREMELY
burning hot. so hot that rashes can appear and heat stroke can strike anytime) why don't you stay at home so mummy can revise your homework with you? *gives a PERFECT excuse and pats child's head*
see people? just a playground... and you make restrictions like this. a child's favourite place is cordorned off by an imaginary force... the parental force... and then when the child grows up? he/she will probably only know how to study... he will probably not know how to swing or play with sand. parents should not control thier kids too much... if not, they will still not dare to take rollercoasters even when they are already in secondary school. ( this sentence seems to be pointed at me) you see this is the main problem. parents want children to grow up to be high and mighty and independent people. however, the child is not trained since young. parents state out all thier "safety measures" and restrict thier children to everything. and then when mistakes appear, they refuse to accept that they are wrong. this is thier mindset. parents right, children wrong. therefore, all children must listen to their parents regardless of whatever the parent wants you to do. so, children follow blindly and then when they grow up, it becomes a habit. but to the older children, this will be more troublesome. parents think that they are still young kids and decide everything for the child, regardless of whether the child likes it or not. this is very unfair. when people grow up, they should have thier own mindset and they should be allowed to think freely. overly concerned parents will end up actually having rebellious kids. then when the child objects to whatever they say, they start threatening them and saying things like, " i know lar! you grow up liao have your own friends right? don't care about parents liao lar!" then in the end the child compramises the parent. and then this scenario repeats again and again. and so, children get irritated. the gap between children and parents get wider and wider. children turn to friends instead of parents. and if the child happens to turn to the wrong friends, it's the end.
part 2 of my speech will be continued =)
just did it at 7:02 PM